I am a woman. I have kids. I am married. We own our own home. I had a successful career. I chose to step off the career ladder to stay at home and look after my kids. I am a stay at home mother.
I was brought up in a home where class was never discussed; maybe because I was never brought up in England. You either had it or you didn’t. My parents own their home. They taught me that in order to get what you want out of life you have to work hard for it.
And boy did I work hard. As I climbed the career ladder getting promotion after promotion, I never once thought that my race was of any importance whether I could do my job or not. If I never got a job I never thought it was because I was black.
Now, as a mum I now find myself having to not only define myself as a black woman, but I also have to own my class too.
According to the English Dictionary, the definition of the middle class is as follows:
Middle Class – The social group between the upper and working classes, including professional and business workers and their families.
So I am now a middle class black mum.
Now why would you think I would need to define myself according to my class?
Can I not just be a woman? Well it seems I cannot.
I do not care for the British class system that’s why I can take on this title, Black middle class mum as I feel nothing for it.
I am a woman and I am not perfect.